HALT when Eating and Using Cannabis
Before you eat, ask yourself: Am I hungry, angry, lonely or tired? If hungry yes, eat a little to stop the hunger. Hunger is defined by something physical – growling tummy, etc. If you’re angry, talk about it. If lonely, call someone. If tired, take a nap. The same applies to drinking or cannabis. Do you want to get high? For fun? Ok, maybe then. But if you are angry, lonely or tired don’t use. Using food or substances is unhealthy if used to satisfy or avoid emotional needs such as anger, loneliness or fatigue.
Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.”
― Barbara De Angelis
Don’t run away from things. Instead, run to things. Define your values, goals, needs and wants and then do things that use or encompass your values, etc. in your life. Sometimes we have to remove ourselves from toxic and uncomfortable circumstances. But to do so without the direction of those values, goals, needs will just drag the same toxic uncomfortable circumstances with us.
Jealousy and resentment have less to do with what others are doing and more to do with what you are not.
Hell and the gnashing of teeth is just before we draw our last breath and we realize we did not repair the things we broke while we were alive; things such as relationships, hope, feelings, integrity, faith and such. Similarly heaven is the knowing that we did our best to make those repairs. Purgatory is not knowing the difference between those two things while we’re alive.
The bigger the problem one may have the bigger the unmet need one may have as well. If you meet that need and you may solve the problem. I don’t believe there are broken people; perhaps people just have unmet needs. I think helping people identify and meet their needs will move people further in the direction they want to go. Merely looking at the problem from a different angle often just brings along with it strong avoidance and pain that we then have to wrestle with as well. When we look at needs and ways to meet them we consider strengths and possibilities and hope and ideas for growth.
Feel free to dream, believe, plan and then act. Repeat as necessary.
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